How to Work on the Relationship

   At the beginning of your relationship, you might be confused whether or not your relationship will work out or last. When you started a relationship you are usually one of two minds. One, this person is the ONE and you envision bed and breakfasts, white picket fences and puppies in your future. Two, well, this person is the one for right now, nothing too serious, we're just having fun.

   The most important thing in a relationship is how you are willing to make it work and last. You want to have a relationship to start a family right? It's definitely the thing that all people wants when they start to have a relationship. A relationship is a way to get to know you partner better. 

   And here is some tips about ways to make your relationship work, I got it from some blogs, posts, etc:

1. Play together. Develop mutual interests with your partner to help your relationship grow or stay strong. It's important to have common interests other than your love for each other. At first, passion may be enough to keep your love going, but once your relationship matures, it's important to share common interests or activities so that your relationship stays fresh.^[1]

• You should work on sharing hobbies, whether you bake desserts every Sunday, or find a TV show that you watch together each week.
• Have a couple culture project. You can decide to watch at least one movie together a week, or have your own mini-book club. That way, you can motivate yourself to learn new things and keep your conversations interesting.
  

         2. Maintain some individual passions and friends. Healthy relationships are secure enough so that each of you can get some space every now and then. While it’s important to share passions, you should still have something that’s just yours whether it’s a weekly spa visit or a poker night with your friends.

• It's just as important to spend the night with your sweetie hanging out with friends as it is to have some alone time regularly. Balancing time apart with time together promotes interdependence. Both of you absolutely need it in order to maintain your own interests, as well as to realize how grateful you are when your partner is around.

    3. Find solo joy. Don’t count on your partner to bring you happiness. Just as you should make sure to have your own hobbies, you should also be sure that you are happy on your own. So many people enter relationships hoping that their mates will make them happy. This is an unrealistic expectation, and only causes the relationship to suffer.

• Whatever makes you happy, be sure you are doing that for you and not expecting your partner to bring you happiness. Set objective goals and take action daily to reach them. Build a strong support network outside of your relationship. Do work that adds meaning to your life

4. Show appreciation and support for your mate. Even if you think your love is rock solid, never take your loved one for granted. No matter how busy your days are, make time away from computers, phones, and televisions to catch up on each other’s days.

• Compliment your significant other at least once a day. For bonus points, find something new to say every time!^[4]
• Don’t come to expect your partner’s good deeds. Tell your date “thanks” when they show up with flowers. Showing appreciation reinforces positive behaviors.

     Well, that's for today's update about how to work on your relationship. Hope that I can help by the post, and hope to see you in my next post!!

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sincerely,

Shintya Theresha Silvana